What We Choose To Remember, by Steve Heller (Serving House Books)

(Serving House Books, $12).

Reviewed by R.A. Rycraft



In a world that seems filled with the willfully ignorant and depressingly unreflective, it is refreshing to read a collection of narrative essays that prompts readers to consider “how time and distance affect what we choose to remember and how we regard the life we’ve lived and the life that remains before us.”  A reflection of the key moments where his past met his future, Heller offers a glimpse of the microcosm that shaped his life while simultaneously suggesting the macrocosm that shapes ours: the family legends of heartbreak, the adolescent sense of otherness, the inexplicable joys of parenthood tangled in the sad threads of a failing marriage, the particular type of loneliness and awareness comprehended only through the loss of a parent – the loss of two parents, the unearthing of self through the questions born of experience, the renewal of self through the discovery of a partner who is life mate and soul mate.  Heller’s recollections are not so much a nostalgic journey into the past as they are a probing effort to confront and accept the evolution of his identity to the present – an effort many of us can relate to and take on for similar reasons.  We read stories like Heller’s because ours, too, are “[stories] of escape, of good fortune, [of] neither endings nor beginnings.” 


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